Stop Chasing Love (Do This Instead)


Many people chase other people. I want you to take a look at what happens on an energetic level when this situation occurs. It results into the other person "running away". The "chasing" energy is what we call "needy", which is not found to be attractive when it comes to attracting something or someone.

People can sense other people’s energy, so when you want someone badly, many times the other person can feel that off of your energyfield. They can feel this even when they aren’t near you physically. There is this saying that goes “when you treat someone like a celebrity, they will treat you like a fan”. This is a metaphor for how this works.

When you chase, you are in an energetic state of “lack”. When you lack something, but you really want it, energetically you are saying "I don't have it". You must see a romantic relationship or a partner as something that is a nice benefit to your life, but not as something that will complete you, because you already are. So in order to attract love or someone, you must feel satisfied, happy and whole within yourself first.

Stop Waiting, Stop Searching

Stop waiting for someone to text you back, stop swiping on Tinder all day, stop going everywhere you go “is that the one?", because you will most likely not find the right person when you do these things. When you feel lack, you create lack. Stop doing everything that involves chasing, so your manifestations can come much faster. Instead, focus on what you love doing.

Do what you love and what you're passionate about and focus more on that. If you stop searching for love and you focus on you and loving yourself, love will find you. When you do what you love, you are not only vibrating at a higher frequency to attract amazing things, people will also sense that you are focusing on yourself and this will attract people like a magnet.

When you are on the right path, investing a lot into  your passion and talents, you can expect to find someone that matches your vibration. This person could be "the one" or your soulmate or twinflame.


Self-Love is Key

When you are confident and have a lot of love for yourself, you are a magnet to other people. Everyone wants to naturally be around you. You must be happy with who you are and proud of who you are. Everyone has their flaws and that is perfectly fine. Do not discourage yourself or talk badly about yourself. Every one of us has made mistakes and has their own flaws, but that does not define who we ultimately are.

If you have empathy  and sympathy for others and all of creation surrounding you and if you want to impact people in a good way, then you are already perfect the way you are. Embrace who you are, with all of your flaws. Tell yourself that you are doing good. Remember yourself that you are doing the best that you can.


Everything You Need Is Within

Everything you need is already inside of you. What you want outside of yourself, is something that already exists within you. We can't physically see it, but it's there. The love or satisfaction we may think we can only get from a specific person, we can get that from ourselves. We just need to remain open to the opportunity to give ourselves that satisfaction.

It's a matter of feeling that what you want is already within you. When you are there, you attract people that also feel the same way about themselves, people that also feel whole and complete within. We always get a reflection in our lives and in other people of who we are.


It does not matter if you aren’t a super model, it doesn’t matter if you are broke, it doesn’t matter where you come from. If you have true love for yourself, you attract love. Whether that means on a romantic or platonic level. You can manifest any type of love you want.

Many people are single and searching for love and wonder why they don’t find it. Most of the time the answer is simply that they don't believe they can attract it or they believe that they don't deserve it. If that's your mindset, you will also never receive it.

The Energy of Self-Love

The energy of self-love is so beautiful and pure, you simply must feel that love for yourself at all times. Forget about the past, forget about what other people have said and done that disrupted your self-love. All that matters is that now you recognize your true power and that you stay there. 

Self-love is so extremely attractive and people will always be drawn to people that are confident and love themselves. Notice how for example some men or women end up with someone that is generally to the outside public not seen as someone that is attractive as for their appearance. It's not deniable that some date or marry for financial benefits etc, but that’s not the point here.

Many people end up dating or marrying someone, not because that person is good-looking, but because that person truly loves who they are. They own who they are, with their flaws as well. It's not to say that these people have nothing that they are not insecure about, but these people own their flaws and still love themselves, regardless of the fact that they aren't perfect.

Never let yourself indulge into lower vibrational frequencies because you are wanting a specific person and you don't get from them what it is that you want. You want to send out good and positive energy to attract that person into your life. Positive energy attracts positive outcomes. If you are feeling down for what you don’t have, you will continue to feel down for what you don’t have.

Be okay with the current state and circumstances. Good only comes when you feel good. Love only comes when you are not looking for it or at least when you aren't desperate for it. Love comes in divine timing. Trust the process and always let things unfold naturally.